[King David said to his, Solomon,] "I am going where everyone on earth must someday go. Take courage and be a man. Observe the requirements of The Lord your God, and follow all his ways. Keep the decrees, commands, regulations, and laws written in the Law of Moses so that you will be successful in all you do and wherever you go." (1 Kings 2:1-3)
Guys are experiencing somewhat of an identity crisis right now. The average age of marriage for a guy has risen to twenty-nine. A lot of grown guys are spending yours living with Mom and Dad staring at a TV screen an average of six hours a day. It's Mo wonder then that 17 percent of your fishing pond are weighing in with technical "obesity" and less than 59 percent are sticking around to be a father after getting a girlfriend pregnant.
This not to villainize guys. It's just that they don't have many good role models these days. It looks like a lot of guys are going to the Hollywood School of Preventing Intimacy, Money and Power, Being Put in Your Place by Dominant Woman, and 101 Guns You'll Be Allowed to Own. What about instruction in justice, loving what is good, serving rather than taking, and speaking tenderly to his wife and children?
Today's verse recorded Kings David's parting words to his son, Solomon. He told his son to "take courage and be a man." His wisdom called his son to step up and lead. And Solomon did. He wasn't perfect, but he did demonstrate goodness.
Be sure you wait for a guy who has had the advantage of Solomon...a wise and life-tested mentor against whom he has been able to measure, test, and develop his own manhood modeled for them to be the perfect picture of chivalry. And why do we go for the bad boy who seems to be more exciting? Choose your guy for life is the single most important decision you are going to make other than following Jesus as your Savior. The real men are out there. And most of the time, they have a real man teaching them.
Have your dad or an adult guy you respect help you make up a list of "manly" traits that you should look for in a guy.