Sunday, July 28, 2013

The 11 Differences Between Dating A Boy vs A Man

A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.

If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.

1.) A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.

2.) A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life).  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.

3.) A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.

4.) A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.

5.) A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.

6.) A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.

7.) A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.

8.) A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.

9.) A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.

10.) A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:

11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.

*To clarify, when I’m referring to “games” I mean mind games.

Friday, July 26, 2013

The Things We Want To Do

Do you ever want to go do something that's fun and adventures? Or move? Do you talk about doing something but never actually doing something? This actually follows up on when we ask God to guide us into a new season/ fun adventure. I saw this picture the other day, I feel like this fits perfectly.
 Sometimes we aren't willing to move our feet into the right direction, but we are willing to move our mouths in a direction that our feet aren't going into. 

Do you ever feel like that sometimes? Where we ask God to do something but we never move when he opens doors? 

"I know your works. Behold, I have set before you an open door, which no one is able to shut. I know that you have but little power, and yet you have kept my word and have not denied my name." Revelation 3:8 esv

"Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me." Revelation 3:20 esv

“Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few." Matthew 7:13-14 esv

We need to be moving our feet with our mouth! 

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Riding The Fence

Ladies this sign says it all..."If You Find Yourself A Bit Irritated Or Overwhelmed, It's A Sign That You're Spending Less Time With GOD And More Time With This World."  Are we (talking to myself) spending more time with the world and less time with God?  The moment we are feeling irritated, overwhelmed, sadness, depression..etc. we need to look at where we are in life, are we on the fence side with God or we fence riding it with the world?  

James 1:8(KJV); "A double minded man is unstable in all his ways."

1 Corinthians 10:19-21(MSG);  Do you see the difference? Sacrifices offered to idols are offered to nothing, for what’s the idol but a nothing? Or worse than nothing, a minus, a demon! I don’t want you to become part of something that reduces you to less than yourself. And you can’t have it both ways, banqueting with the Master one day and slumming with demons the next. Besides, the Master won’t put up with it. He wants us—all or nothing. Do you think you can get off with anything less?

There's this song called Fence Riders by Jimmy Needham....

We need to either make a stand and give it all over to God or we continue to fence ride it. You pick....Just a reminder GOD LOVES YOU SO MUCH!  

Monday, July 22, 2013


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Sunday, July 21, 2013

Being the Change

Do you ever want to be the change? Change things in your life or you may want to be the change in the world. You should listen to this song! A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!
What are your thoughts on this song? 

Monday, July 15, 2013

Boiling Over

Are you like me where, when something happens or if your going through something you keep it in until you boil over and burst like a pot of noodles? For the last few months I have been going through a whole lot where at night I can't sleep. I have WAY to much on my mind. Have you seen that one saying where girls brain is like spaghetti and guys brains are like waffles (read the book).
Girls can think like spaghetti! Always thinking and doing things at the same time and get to the point where we either boil over or we come clean and talk to someone about whats going on. I'm writing this post for me and probably as much just for you too. We all need a good reminder here and there.

I came home tonight and my mom had Joel Osteen on TV. If you don't know who he is, he is a paster in Texas. His church is called Lakewood Church (LOVE him).

His message was what I needed. You know that moment where God's been trying to tell you something but you just don't hear or see what he's been trying to tell you, so instead he just throws it into your face? Well, Joel's message was on the very thing I needed to hear, "You Don't Need To Have Anybody's Approval, You Just Need God's Approval." Umm...Wow! Now, I don't know how I missed that when God's been trying to show me. Let me re-say that just in case you missed it, "You Don't Need To Have Anybody's Approval, You Just Need God's Approval."

When we feel like we are going through hell and back and its all because of people. We feel like we want to go gossip up about it or we keep it in until we boil up and brake down (I do the last part). Both of those things are not healthy (talking to myself).

Last night at church Paster Randy talked about "You Can't Have It", I will have to say that it was amazing! He talked about how the devil will come into our lives to still, kill, and destroy (John 10:10) anything that we love; Our Health, Our Family's, Our Relationships, Our Marriages, Our Destiny (BIG ONE). Our job is to tell the sun of a gun devil that HE CAN'T HAVE IT! (Psalm 24:1; John 10:10; 1 Kings 20; Psalm 50:10-12; Haggai 2:8 (TEV); Psalm 89:11)

"If Satan can't take heaven from God then he can't take earth. He's just passing. It took a second for God to kick Satan out like a lightning bolt from heaven. Satan owns NOTHING."

When we are going through our problems, they are all going to be different from each other but Satan is coming in and stealing joy from what we love. We need to to take a stand and tell him YOU CAN'T HAVE IT! Yes, it won't be easy (nothings easy) nor will it be a comfortable place to be in but if you want to have the blessings and be living by Christ we NEED to stand up and face the devil and tell him HE CAN'T HAVE IT. He can't have my life, He can't have my health, He can't have my friends/family/relationship, but most importantly He can't have my Destiny!

This is just a reminder that whatever we are going through we just need to be aware that the devil is out there to still, kill, and destroy anything that we love and take our joy out of everything. When i'm writing this I can't tell you how hard this is. I've been dealing with stuff around this topic. Family, Friends, and ect. I just want you girls to know that in life it wont be easy, but it will be hard and well worth it if we can all stand up against the devil and flee him away from OUR stuff, not HIS stuff, it's OUR stuff.  

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Those Roller Coaster Moments

Your in line to get on a ride that you know is a little extreme and your nerves are sizzling like they are on a frying pan ( you know what I mean). You inch closer and closer to the loading zone and your nerves are sizzling on high and you get antsy. You finally get on the ride and your going up that one huge hill before it drops you down with loads of speed, and your just screaming. The g-force is so strong and you can't move your arms as your flying through the air, doing cork screws and flips one after another. Okay, you may be asking where the heck I'm going here or its putting you in the mood to go on one amazing extreme roller coaster.

Life can be like a roller coaster in some ways. I will show you how we can learn from roller coasters!

When your in line for the coaster and your nerves sizzling, use that time to get strong in God. Dig deep in the word, become one with it. When your in line whats the one thing you prepare yourself for that ride of a life time. Well, that's what your doing for your life, preparing for whatever your gonna go through. You can't go through anything without having the foundation of Christ.

Your the next person in line, your just freaking out with excitement, huh?! Sometimes in those moments we forget the foundation, that we just made sure we had in line. I will say sometimes I even forget the foundation, when I get so excited on whats going on around me and who's with me. But it is priority that even when we get so caught up with excitement on whats going on around us or what's coming up in front of that we do remember who is blessing us with whats happening....(just in case you don't know it's, Christ).

Now, you have officially entered the ride, there is no turning back now. Yep, that's how some situations can be. You get all excited and the next thing you know your buckled up and they are checking to make sure your not going to fall out of your harness. Okay, let me clarify something real fast, not all situations are the " I Want Off This Ride". Once your seated and harnessed in your in for good, no turning back now, huh? Your nerves are now sizzling like bacon on a frying pan. Situations like this is where you pray and turn to God for help. A lot of us always try and get ourselves out by ourselves (you know it's true). I will say it's hard when we want out of our harness so fast that we don't rely on Christ and we take matters into our own hands. WE CAN'T DO THAT!!!! We all know what the final out come is going to be...disaster!

We are heading up that big hill now. Our feet are dangling and we feel free, and we also feel like we can take on the whole world. We are screaming with excitement. Our hair is flying in the air we have this big cheesy smile on our face (oh, you know what I'm talking about). Yep, we are at the top about to go down the steep hill that we just climbed and this is usually the time where our nerves have fully kicked in and we are freaking out and screaming out of fear (depending on the ride). If you think this one through, it's just like life. We go through our ups and downs and we always turn to God when we are in desperate place in our lives. Hey! I've done it and I know you all have done it. Everyone does it. Should we be doing that? NO! We should be turning to God like we do when we have some type of gossip that we have to tell our best friend. You know when you find out some juicy inside scoop of something and you HAVE to tell someone and it's always your best friend (your laughing because you know it's true). Well, that's what we need to be with God. We need to turn to God 24/7. In any trails or happy moments we are in we need to be talking to God like he is (he should be) our best friend.

It's time your flying! Oh my goodness, your doing turns left and right, cork screws, flips. Oh! And we can't forget your going fast! In life we go thousand miles per hour (it seems like we do) and we just can't seem to slow down. When your flying on the ride sometimes you feel uncomfortable, huh? Sometimes God will allow things to happen to push us into the destiny he has planed for us. That doesn't mean it will always be comfortable, we just have to have faith. 

Stirring Things Up

Sometimes the very things that we fight against, the very things that we think are trying to pull us down, are actually the hand of God trying to push us into a new season. God will stir us out of comfortable situations and He'll put us to use our faith. We may not like it. It may be uncomfortable. But God loves you to much to just leave you alone. 

Just as God can supernaturally open doors, sometimes He may supernaturally close doors. Nothing happens by accident. God is directing each of your steps. That means if a friend does you wrong, if you go through a setback, if you lose a loved one, you can either embrace that change and God will use it to take you higher, or you can resist it and you'll end up becoming stagnant and settling for mediocrity. 

Stay open for change. Don't approach change from a negative point of view. All change is not bad. It may be negative on the surface but remember, God would not allow it if He didn't have a purpose for it. He will use it to stretch you and to hopefully push you into a new dimension. You may be in a perfectly fine situation for years, but all of a sudden you will see a stirring taking place. 

Maybe you thought you were suppose to be dating this "one" person or you are suppose to go to a certain college, but for some reason the people who were behind you are not behind you anymore. You don't have the favor you once had. It seems like every day is an uphill battle. What is that? That's God stirring things up. 

It's easy to become negative or bitter: "God, why is this happening? I thought I had Your favor." But a much better approach is to just stay open and know that God is still in control. If you will embrace that change, the winds that you thought would defeat you will actually push you to your divine destiny. 

Maybe you are in a relationship, and deep down you know the person is not good for you. You know this individual is keeping you from being Your best. But you may think, If I make a change I will alone. You don't want to rock your boat over. God may force you to move forward, not because He's mean, not because He's trying to make your life miserable, but because He has such a great desire to see you reach your full potential. 

So at times He may cause a friend to walk away. He'll stir things up and may even allow a friend to do you wrong, because He knows if He doesn't close that door you will never move ahead. Thirty years later that person would still be dragging you down, keeping you from your destiny. God would not have stirred it up if He didn't have something better in store. Don't fight change; embrace it, and you will step into the fullness of what God has in store. 


I DECLARE I am special and extraordinary. I am not average! I have been custom-made. I am one of a kind. Of all the things God created, what He is the most proud of is me. I am His masterpiece, his most prized possession. I will keep my head  heals high, knowing I am a child of the most high God, made in his very image. This is my declaration. 
Psychologists say our self-worth is often based upon what we believe the most important people in our lives think of us. For children most likely that would be our parents. For adults, that could still be a parent or a spouse, friend, or a mentor. 

The problem with this philosophy is that people can disappoint us. Thy can say things or do things that bring heartache and pain. If we're receiving our value only from those who hurt us, we'll likely feel less and less valuable over time. Sooner or later they will say something that cuts like a knife, or they will show by their actions that we're not really that important. 

The key to really understanding and maintaining a true sense of value is to let your Heavenly Father be the most important person in your life. Base your sense of value on what He says about you. 

When you make mistakes some may criticize and make you feel guilty, like you're all washed up. But God says, "I have mercy for every mistake. Get up and go again. Your future is brighter than your past." 

Others may make you feel like you're not talented, you're not attractive, or you don't have anything special to offer. But God says, "You're amazing. You're beautiful. You're one of a kind."

People may disappoint you and reject you, even say things that wound your spirit. If you're receiving your value and your worth only from them, you'll go through life feeling inferior, insecure, with little self-worth. But if you will learn to receive your value from your Heavenly Father and listen to what He says about you, then you'll feel accepted, approved, redeemed, forgiven, confident, and secure. You will feel extremely valuable an that's exactly the way God wants you to be. 

Ephesians 2:10 says, "You are God's masterpiece." Do you realize a masterpiece is not mass-produced? You didn't come off an assembly line. You're not average. You're not ordinary. You've been custom-made. You are one of a kind. God created you in His very own image. He looks past all those other things and He looks right at you and says, "There's my masterpiece. That's my son. That's my daughter. That's what brings the most joy to my heart."

Monday, July 8, 2013


To bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of despair.  They will be called oaks of righteousness, planting of The Lord for the display of his splendor. 
Isaiah 61:3

Saturday, July 6, 2013

Curve Balls

Sometimes in life, you get thrown curve balls that aren't planned. Usually they come flying somewhere in the back. 

Today I had that. Yes, I broke down (it was a HUGE curve ball). But what made it different than all the other curve balls that have been thrown my way, is that I had people to back me up and support me on what was going on and what choices I was about to make. The most important thing (I was reminded this today), we as girls we get a curve ball about every other month or so (at least that's what I feel like happens). It's how we react to that curve ball, my dad reminded me of something he always tells his kids when he's coaching; 

Failure happens all the time. It happens everyday in soccer practice and/or a soccer game, what makes you better is how you react to it.

Great reminder, huh? Some times we react horribly where it ruins what's happening around us. Or maybe your like me and you keep it in for so long that finally you boil over and break down. 

Someone earlier told me that (the most obvious thing to do) just give it up to God and let go. That can be the hardest thing to do in life. Let go of your problems and give it over to the Almighty, Christ. I personally think it's easier said then done. 

Why am I telling you all this you might be asking....because we go through trials that we think we can't get through. I'm here to tell you that you can; give it up to God. Have people back you up in life. 

Friends For Life Time

This is so us, me in the shopping cart you pushing! We always do some how get ourselves in trouble 😉 Any-who, I ❤ you like CrAzY!!! You have always been stuck to me like glue, and helped me through so much. For that I am truly thankful for. God has blessed me with one incredible friend that I don't know what I would do with out. ❤ I miss you like tons!

Monday, July 1, 2013

Be That Christian

Several years ago, a christian preacher from out-of-state accepted a call to a church in  Houston , Texas.  Some weeks after he arrived, he had an occasion to ride the bus from his home to the downtown area. When he sat down, he discovered that the driver had accidentally given him a quarter too much change. As he considered what to do, he thought to himself, ‘You’d better give the quarter back. It would be wrong to keep it.’ Then he thought, ‘Oh, forget it, it’s only a quarter. Who would worry about this little amount? Anyway, the bus company gets too much fare; they will never miss it. Accept it as a ‘gift from God’ and keep quiet.’
When his stop came, he paused momentarily at the door, and then he handed the quarter to the driver and said, ‘Here, you gave me too much change ‘
The driver, with a smile, replied, ‘Aren't you the new preacher in town?’
‘Yes’ he replied.
‘Well, I have been thinking a lot lately about going somewhere to worship. I just wanted to see what you would do if I gave you too much change I’ll see you at church on Sunday.’
When the preacher stepped off of the bus, he literally grabbed the nearest light pole, held on, and said, ‘Oh God, I almost sold your Son for a quarter.’
Our lives are the only Bible some people will ever read. This is a really scary example of how much people watch us as Christians, and will put us to the test! Always be on guard — and remember — You carry the name of Christ on your shoulders when you call yourself
Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.


A nurse took the tired, anxious serviceman to the bedside.
“Your son is here,” she said to the old man.
She had to repeat the words several times before the patient’s
eyes opened.
Heavily sedated because of the pain of his heart attack, he
dimly saw the young uniformed Marine standing outside the oxygen tent.
He reached out his hand. The Marine wrapped his toughened fingers around
the old man’s limp ones, squeezing a message of love and encouragement.
The nurse brought a chair so that the Marine could sit beside
the bed.All through the night the young Marine sat there in the poorly
lighted ward, holding the old man’s hand and offering him words of love
and strength. Occasionally, the nurse suggested that the Marine move away
and rest awhile.
He refused. Whenever the nurse came into the ward, the Marine
was oblivious of her and of the night noises of the hospital – the clanking
of the oxygen tank, the laughter of the night staff members exchanging
greetings, the cries and moans of the other patients.
Now and then she heard him say a few gentle words. The dying man
said nothing, only held tightly to his son all through the night.
Along towards dawn, the old man died. The Marine released the
now lifeless hand he had been holding and went to tell the nurse.
While she did what she had to do, he waited.
Finally, she returned. She started to offer words of sympathy,
but the Marine interrupted her.
“Who was that man?” he asked.
The nurse was startled, “He was your father,” she answered.
“No, he wasn’t,” the Marine replied. “I never saw him before in
my life.”
“Then why didn’t you say something when I took you to him?”
“I knew right away there had been a mistake,
but I also knew he needed his son, and his
son just wasn’t here.
When I realized that he was too sick to tell
whether or not I was his son,
knowing how much he needed me, I stayed.”
The next time someone needs you … just be there. Stay.
Now that you have finished reading this , it’s time to let us know what you think?
If you were the marine. . what would have you done?
Would you be there for someone that needed you, even if they were a stranger?
We look forward to hearing your comments below on what would have you done if you were “the marine”!! :)

Our Thoughts

We need to change our thinking to God's thinking. Not: "Hmm....if I ever throw a shoe at my teacher will she get me in trouble" or any other thoughts. We need to change the way we think. Someone told me a good analogy, "The way we think is like dirty under wear(crappy). We need to change the way we think or our life is going to end up that way...crappy. The only way to change our thought process is to read God's word! What comes in our brain is going to come out one way or another. 

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord.  “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.~Isaiah 55:8-9 NLT

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.~Romans 12:2 NLT

Dwelling Places

Rehabilitating &
Reconciling street
children with families

Who is dwelling places?
Dwelling Places is a Christian, non-governmental organization dedicated to removing children from the streets, rebuilding broken families and restoring broken individuals with the love of Jesus Christ.

Imagine the street as your home and the garbage as your food. Imagine living a life without love, longing for a glimpse of hope...

This is the reality for over 10,000 street children in Uganda. Dwelling Places exists to provide escape from poverty and a brighter future. We are a Christian, non-government organization that rehabilitates ex-street children, abandoned babies, and high-risk slum families. Through holistic care, these children are relocated into safe, loving homes back in society.

Moving a child from the streets  to a loving home is a process that requires our four-step Holistic Care Program.

Step 1: Rescue
Our  social workers travel to Kampala and local slums to build relationships with impoverished children who are begging and sleeping on the streets. After assessing the individual's needs, we tailor the program accordingly.

Step 2: Rehabilitate
When a child is brought into Dwelling Places' program, he will live at our Transitional Rehabilitation Center(TRH) for an average of two years. Street children often lack basic daily living habits, so at the TRH, we train them in such skills. We also have empowerment, spiritual enrichment, and counseling programs to further their self-esteem.

Step 3: Reconcile
We work to reconcile the child with their family. if the child lacks a responsible, loving family member the Dwelling Places pursues the options of foster care and adoption. We also promote the Family Empowerment and Preservation Program(FEPP) with each family. Through counseling, health training, and business training, the FEPP equips families to provide stable home environments.

Step 4: Resettle
When the family is qualified to receive the child, it's time for the end goal: resettlement. Dwelling Places meets regularly with the family to reassess their needs and encourage them towards self-sustainability. In cases where we're unable to find permanent home for an individual, we equip them with independent-living skills once they're nearing adulthood.

Isaiah 58:12
Your people will rebuild the ancient ruins, and will raise up the age-old  foundations; you will be called Repairer of Broken Walls, Restorer of Streets with Dwellings.

Some Fun Uplifting Music!