Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Wuv, Twue Wuv

I am my lover's, he claims me as his own. Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers. Let us get up early and go to the vineyards to see if the grapevines have budded, if the blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates have opened, and if the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love. (Song Of Songs 7:10-12)

Those are some steamy love words from Solomon. They may be easy to swallow if you are one who has been steeped in romance novels or movies, eager to find your own "Farm Boy" (remember The Princess Bride) who can be revived from "mostly dead" by the mere thought of a lifetime spent with you. Or maybe you are among  the more jaded, wondering if true love even exist. (You may be considering settling as Buttercup almost did for "wuv, twue wuv" with a guy she didn't even like.)

As great as romantic movies are, the picture they paint of "falling" in love is both dangerous and unrealistic. Here, then, is a list of realistic rules from a couple of happily married girls:
  1. Do not make warm fuzzies the number one indicator light on your dashboard of love. when we are crushing on a guy, our brains literally work overtime to convince us the emotions we are experiencing are the real final deal. it's not all pussycats and rainbows  this love thing. The rain is going to fall, and the wind is going to howl...even in the midst of true love.
  2. Avoid the term "falling in love." If you really fall in, you can really fall back out. When we fall, it's not planned. That's why falls are typically called accidents. Love is a decision we make, and the wedding vows paint a decent picture of the requirements of love: in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer, till death parts us.
  3. No thrill rides. Done correctly, feelings richer and deeper than can ever be imagined emerge from the ashes of a slow-cooked love. It is not a zero-to-sixty-in-three-seconds thrill ride.

Action Step

Don't even think about loving a guy until you and Jesus are seriously in love! if you're already in a relationship, would you be willing to take a step back, slow down, and work on the Jesus part first?

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