In stark contrast to guys waffle-like approach, girls tended to live life as though it were a plate of pasta. If you look at a plate of spaghetti, you will notice that there are a lot of individual noodles and all of the noodles touch one another. If you attempted to follow just one noodle around the plate, you would intersect a lot of other noodles you might even switch to another noodle seamlessly without realizing it. This is how girls face life. Every thought, feeling issue is connected to every other thought, feeling an issue in someway.
This is why girls typically are better at multitasking than guys. A girl can talk on the phone, paint her toenails, shop online, double with her algebra homework and picture what her wedding will look like while simultaneously texting and eating. Because all her thoughts, emotions and convictions are connected, she processes more information and keeps track of more activities taking place.
Because girls have these incomprehensible conversational skills, when it comes to solving problems they have a very different perspective than guys. Girls don't look to solve all problems with simple and fast solutions. Girls, much more than guys, desire to talk things through. This helps them processed the situation. Guys usually try to process in their head by themselves first. Through conversation girls can link together the logical emotional, relationship, relational, and special aspects of an issue. These links come to girls naturally so a spaghetti conversation is effortless for them.
Guys Are Waffles
Guys thinking about it up into boxes, and each of those boxes has a room for one issue and one issue only. Family night going to one box, while girlfriend goes into another, I'll schoolwork is in yet another, and so on. The typical guy tends to live in one box at a time. When he is playing video games, he is simply playing video games. When he is playing sports or burning ants with and I'm not magnifying glass, he's playing sports are intensely focused on killing tiny insects a terrible and fascinatingly. Guys concentrate on one thing at a time. This is why he sometimes looks like he is in a trance and can seemingly ignore everything else going on around him. Psychologists call this "compartmentalizing"... That is, putting life and responsibilities into different departments.
As a result of this compartmentalizing, guys are problem solvers by nature. They enter a box, size up the situation or the problem, and formulate a way to act on it and solve it. In the sports we guys choose to play, we consider what it will take to be successful, decide how good we might be able to be, then focus on accomplishing some goals. In communication, guys really are more considered with the main point in getting there as quickly as possible. They're not as concerned with talking for links of time just to feel closer as they discuss something.
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